Comments on: Hurt http://grabapple.net/entry/102 No moneyman can win her love. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 07:48:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: ikm http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-47596 ikm Fri, 05 Oct 2007 17:22:06 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-47596 <p>I found this post via Feministe.</p> <p>Thank you for writing this very powerful story. My biggest fear would be to give birth in a hospital because of stories like these. I'm so sorry you had to go through this and so glad you chose to share your painful experience to educate others.</p> I found this post via Feministe.

Thank you for writing this very powerful story. My biggest fear would be to give birth in a hospital because of stories like these. I’m so sorry you had to go through this and so glad you chose to share your painful experience to educate others.

]]> By: Feministe » Birth fears http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-47463 Feministe » Birth fears Thu, 04 Oct 2007 18:56:15 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-47463 <p>[...] And even when consent is given, it so often is poorly informed. Health-care providers intentionally frighten women to get them to acquiesce. Continuous electronic fetal monitoring has been shown to be of no benefit to maternal or perinatal mortality or morbidity, but a woman refusing it will often be asked “do you want your baby to die?” Small risks of non-intervention are inflated; larger ones of an intervention the doctor currently wants aren’t even mentioned. Women are told the pain of labour is going to get much worse, and the anesthesiologist is going to be busy in a few minutes, so if they ever want pain relief, they had better get it now. Emjaybee, a regular commenter here at feministe, had a traumatic birth that culminated in a nurse running away with her baby, without her or her husband’s consent. [...]</p> […] And even when consent is given, it so often is poorly informed. Health-care providers intentionally frighten women to get them to acquiesce. Continuous electronic fetal monitoring has been shown to be of no benefit to maternal or perinatal mortality or morbidity, but a woman refusing it will often be asked “do you want your baby to die?” Small risks of non-intervention are inflated; larger ones of an intervention the doctor currently wants aren’t even mentioned. Women are told the pain of labour is going to get much worse, and the anesthesiologist is going to be busy in a few minutes, so if they ever want pain relief, they had better get it now. Emjaybee, a regular commenter here at feministe, had a traumatic birth that culminated in a nurse running away with her baby, without her or her husband’s consent. […]

]]> By: Suzy http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-233 Suzy Thu, 08 Dec 2005 06:13:29 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-233 Thank you for writing this. I understand how you feel. I had a very difficult first birth--needlessly so--that marred the early days with my daughter, and made breastfeeding very difficult (and unfortunately I took the ped's advice and gave up, which broke my heart). I hope you do not let this first birth dissuade you from having more kids. It WILL NOT be like this next time. You won't let it. You will arm yourself with all the information you can find. You will do everything you can to prevent it, and you will succeed, just as I have (3 times, now!). Many hugs. Thank you for writing this.

I understand how you feel. I had a very difficult first birth–needlessly so–that marred the early days with my daughter, and made breastfeeding very difficult (and unfortunately I took the ped’s advice and gave up, which broke my heart). I hope you do not let this first birth dissuade you from having more kids. It WILL NOT be like this next time. You won’t let it. You will arm yourself with all the information you can find. You will do everything you can to prevent it, and you will succeed, just as I have (3 times, now!).

Many hugs.

]]> By: lulu http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-207 lulu Tue, 29 Nov 2005 22:41:03 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-207 HI, thanks for sharing your story. I am still in my frist trimester and was going to call PSmidwives tomorrow to make an appt, since they are close to where I live and I like the idea of midwives--but because you were kind enough to share your story, i think I will pass them by and look elsewhere. Thank you, thank you, thank you for putting the word out! Another transplanted Texan living in Brooklyn HI, thanks for sharing your story. I am still in my frist trimester and was going to call PSmidwives tomorrow to make an appt, since they are close to where I live and I like the idea of midwives–but because you were kind enough to share your story, i think I will pass them by and look elsewhere. Thank you, thank you, thank you for putting the word out!

Another transplanted Texan living in Brooklyn

]]> By: Monty http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-206 Monty Mon, 28 Nov 2005 20:50:18 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-206 I agree with Smokey. Such disrespect and ill-regard for the person is not just an overlook in the machinery of healthcare, but an abomination of the oath that each doctor takes. I'd be terrified and angry to no end watching those events unfold to my love and newborn son. Are we not an intelligent and soulful society? Where did this go wrong? You and Matt have my support, as always. I can't wait to meet little Nathan- he sounds and looks like just the perfect addition to the family! Love to you from down south. I agree with Smokey. Such disrespect and ill-regard for the person is not just an overlook in the machinery of healthcare, but an abomination of the oath that each doctor takes. I’d be terrified and angry to no end watching those events unfold to my love and newborn son. Are we not an intelligent and soulful society? Where did this go wrong? You and Matt have my support, as always. I can’t wait to meet little Nathan- he sounds and looks like just the perfect addition to the family! Love to you from down south.

]]> By: Sithean http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-196 Sithean Wed, 23 Nov 2005 18:55:43 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-196 Oh,hon - This just breaks my heart. I want to smack those that treated you like a number instead of a wonderful woman about to bring a precious, new life into the world. I am so, so sorry you've gone through this, and am equally as glad that you are complaining. Please keep us updated! Oh,hon - This just breaks my heart. I want to smack those that treated you like a number instead of a wonderful woman about to bring a precious, new life into the world. I am so, so sorry you’ve gone through this, and am equally as glad that you are complaining. Please keep us updated!

]]> By: Lois http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-189 Lois Tue, 22 Nov 2005 03:05:11 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-189 Wow - I have heard some horrific labor stories in my life, but none as harrowing as yours. This is just awful. My advice to you is to become the worst marketing/PR nightmare this hospital has ever seen. I am a huge advocate that says a woman at her very most weakest point deserves the utmost respect and deference of everyone around her. The treatment you described during your birth process sickens me. Wow - I have heard some horrific labor stories in my life, but none as harrowing as yours. This is just awful. My advice to you is to become the worst marketing/PR nightmare this hospital has ever seen. I am a huge advocate that says a woman at her very most weakest point deserves the utmost respect and deference of everyone around her. The treatment you described during your birth process sickens me.

]]> By: Smokey http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-186 Smokey Mon, 21 Nov 2005 18:08:15 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-186 Unbelievable. I am so sorry that this turned out so badly for you. No amount of punishment would be strong enough for those bastards. Unbelievable. I am so sorry that this turned out so badly for you. No amount of punishment would be strong enough for those bastards.

]]> By: Lisa http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-183 Lisa Mon, 21 Nov 2005 16:36:47 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-183 Janell, you were right -- it's hard to read. I am so sorry your birth experience was such a string of nightmares. Good for you for taking that anger and directing it someplace productive. Also, big congratulations to you and Matthew on your fine healthy son! I'll be thinking of you in the upcoming weeks. Janell, you were right — it’s hard to read. I am so sorry your birth experience was such a string of nightmares. Good for you for taking that anger and directing it someplace productive.

Also, big congratulations to you and Matthew on your fine healthy son! I’ll be thinking of you in the upcoming weeks.

]]> By: Taymickey http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-179 Taymickey Sun, 20 Nov 2005 16:29:10 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/102#comment-179 I also am from MWT and just wanted to tell you that I am sorry you went through this. Sue them is all I can say. You deserve to let them know your grievance!! Again I am sorry you went through this. I also am from MWT and just wanted to tell you that I am sorry you went through this. Sue them is all I can say. You deserve to let them know your grievance!! Again I am sorry you went through this.

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