The scar bugs me a little less now. It’s more about what it represents than the scar itself, you know?

- My scheduled c-section was much less traumatic than the emergency one. But not because of how the doctor treated me (they are still all business). Mainly because I went into the hospital mentally prepared for surgery. I didn’t care about the logistics, I just wanted to hear that baby cry.

- I am also baffled as to where the line is between “necessary medical intervention” and “convenient for the doctors”. The whole thing makes my head hurt. I admire you for thinking about it so much. For me, it is just too hard to take all of that on.

- Regarding your previous post about antidepressants: I know millions benefit from them, as the commentors themselves prove. However, they didn’t work for me. My problems were not completely chemical; they were situational. I had to learn to deal with major life changes, the grief from my son’s birth, and my resulting anxiety about the future. I wanted to try talk therapy. But I found my doctors wanted to push the drugs; they were a quick fix for them. The one medication I tried made things MUCH worse for me for several weeks. They told me it was a normal response. I was miserable. I decided I wanted another baby, and I didn’t WANT to be on these drugs for the rest of my life. I weaned off, against my doctor’s recommendation. Talk therapy, and time, is what ultimately helped me. Bottom line: do what works for YOU. Every situation is different.

- Regarding your c-section scar: that scar, that seems so monstrous now, will fade. It will take a long time, and they will never be completely gone, but ALL of these scars will fade. Although, I’m sure it’s hard to imagine that day right now.