Comments on: Birth is not a shameful act http://grabapple.net/entry/278 No moneyman can win her love. Mon, 13 Sep 2010 03:13:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Leah http://grabapple.net/entry/278/comment-page-1#comment-3670 Leah Tue, 17 Oct 2006 20:24:41 +0000 http://grabapple.net/entry/278#comment-3670 <p>I fully expected my husband to be useless while I was in labor and I made arrangements to have the strong women there with me. I expected him to be there only as a interested party - but not as a source of strength. I distrusted his ability to made medical decisions and I feared that he wouldn't advocate for me.</p> <p>Yet it was him who got me to hold still for an epidural (of which I was horrified of) I couldn't have done it without him. And when 20+ hours of labor went by and a C-section was determined, as I waited in surgery for set up, I kept asking for my husband. I grew increasingly anxious for him, I wanted him there, and I was so relieved when he came in to hold my hand. Within 45 minutes of surgery my husband was badgering nurses to let him wake me up and to bring our son so he could nurse.</p> <p>My husband surprised me and I love him even more for helping me birth our son. The entire birth was far from our ideal but in the end we gained a healthy baby and I, a renewed admiration for my husband.</p> I fully expected my husband to be useless while I was in labor and I made arrangements to have the strong women there with me. I expected him to be there only as a interested party – but not as a source of strength. I distrusted his ability to made medical decisions and I feared that he wouldn’t advocate for me.

Yet it was him who got me to hold still for an epidural (of which I was horrified of) I couldn’t have done it without him. And when 20+ hours of labor went by and a C-section was determined, as I waited in surgery for set up, I kept asking for my husband. I grew increasingly anxious for him, I wanted him there, and I was so relieved when he came in to hold my hand. Within 45 minutes of surgery my husband was badgering nurses to let him wake me up and to bring our son so he could nurse.

My husband surprised me and I love him even more for helping me birth our son. The entire birth was far from our ideal but in the end we gained a healthy baby and I, a renewed admiration for my husband.

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