Scarves, steam heat, solstice, and schadenfreude

December 22nd, 2004

It’s taken me a while to get the hang of scarves. I think I wore a scarf once, maybe twice in my life before I moved here. In fact, I couldn’t find any good scarves in Texas when I was shopping before my move. And here, they’re on every street corner. But there are different varieties: short, medium, long; knitted or polar fleece; narrow or wide like a shawl; tassels, balls or neither. And then, how do you wrap it? Do you knot it in front? Toss one end over your shoulder like the hipsters prefer? Stuff it inside your coat?

I tried the long-end hanging behind my shoulder thing, but a) you don’t really keep your neck warm, and b) the wind will keep blowing it back anyway. Knotting it in front is really bulky. So now I’ve developed a sort of complicated wrap, once around the neck, the two ends crossing in front, buttoned inside the coat, the looped part pulled up enough to protect the chin and lips. My scarf isn’t any more fashionable than the rest of me, being just a plain long green knitted one, but it works surprisingly well. And I’ve gotten a lot better at judging scarf vs. no-scarf weather. Also, hat or no-hat. Gloves are only for the coldest days, because they’re a pain when you’re pulling stuff out of your pocket. I hate not being able to feel what’s in my pocket when I wear gloves; I start being paranoid that I’ve dropped my keys or that someone’s stolen my wallet. And then you take them off and they never fit into your pocket right.

Scarves are kind of an interesting invention, actually. We can’t seem to design coats that don’t expose the chest and neck a little too much. Even ski jackets with zippers and flaps still let some cold air in. So we have to have these little strips of fabric to stuff in the openings.

It’s been mostly scarf weather this week, with occasional hat; a few days ago, it also required gloves and long johns. Our roommate deanpence hasn’t adjusted to this concept quite yet, and spends a lot of time cursing when he goes outside to smoke, then comes back in to huddle next to his space heater. Our apartment radiator, like all radiators, has only Hot and Off settings, and works on its own mysterious timer, so you learn to just add and subtract layers throughout the day. You get used to the fact that your shampoo is very cold after sitting on the bathroom window ledge all night. You develop a connoisseur’s taste in socks: little thin cotton ones won’t do, they must be thick and warm or your toes will never get un-numbed. You occasionally put on your robe over your clothes while you walk around the house in your wooly socks. Then you peel it all off when the radiator kicks on and you start sweating.

Of course, summer has its own demands. Living in a place where you have to use radiators and window a/c makes it harder to ignore whatever temperature it actually is outside. With central heat and air, you’re in a more enclosed world, and don’t spend much time opening and closing windows, or noticing that it gets colder when the sun goes down. I’m not saying that’s better or worse, but I think it’s interesting how much more I notice the weather in a place like New York City than when I lived in more-rural Texas, sealed up in buildings or my car.

Speaking of sundowns, happy solstice everyone. The days get longer from here on out. Enjoy the holiday of your choice this week, or else just enjoy the time off.

I just saw the following at dailykos.com and wanted to include it, because I think it sums up so much so nicely.

Bush’s War

So, who is to blame for all the deaths in Iraq? Let’s mull this one over a bit, shall we?

Bush claims Saddam is a threat. Bush claims Saddam has WMDs. Bush claims Saddam has ties to Al Qaida. Bush and his administration promote questionable intelligence that supports their preconceptions and prejudices, and reject that which counters it.

Bush puts Rummy in charge of the war. Rummy fires general who says “we need more troops”. Rummy says we can do more with less. Rummy says “lighter is better than armored”. Bush, Cheney, and Rumsfeld say we’ll be met with flower petals. They say the war will be entirely paid for by oil revenues. They say the reconstruction will be paid for entirely by oil revenues.

Bush says he’s giving diplomacy a chance, but he’s giving the world a middle finger. Powell says he’s showing the Security Council evidence of Saddam’s duplicity, but he shows them pictures of warehouses. Bush claims a coalition of the willing, that’s really a coalition of the billing — a mish-mash of third-world nations with token contributions. Only England offers tangible support.

Bush sends the troops into battle, claiming he had no choice. But Saddam had caved on every Bush demand (inspectors were allowed back in, his long-range missiles were being destroyed).

No WMDs are found. No ties with Al Qaida are found. No military capable of threatening Iraq’s neighbors is found. Saddam’s army collapses quickly and the country’s defenders retreat into “insurgency” mode.

Bush declares mission accomplished. Bush taunts the insurgency. (i.e., “bring it on”). The insurgency kills our men and women. The commanders on the ground scream for more troops. They scream for armor. They scream for protected mess halls. Those screams fall on deaf ears.

More soldiers are killed. 1,320 Americans, 74 Britons, seven Bulgarians, one Dane, two Dutch, two Estonians, one Hungarian, 19 Italians, one Latvian, 16 Poles, one Salvadoran, three Slovaks, 11 Spaniards, two Thai and nine Ukrainians. The wounded number in the five figures.

Nevermind the innocent Iraqis who have been “liberated” to death. And while we scream about Saddam’s torture chambers, we create new ones of our own.

So thousands die, for a war built on false justifications, managed poorly, with underequipped, undermanned, and under-armored forces. And to add insult to injury, we’ve had to pay for this mess, to the tune of $200 billion.

So who sent our troops into Iraq on false pretenses? Who sent them in unarmored? Who refused to provide enough troops to stabilize the country effectively? Who taunted the Iraqi opposition with “bring ‘em on”? Who approved the American-branded torture chambers? Who has rewarded the secretary of defense who has negligently ignored the armor shortage in Iraq?

And who keeps them there as they continue to die?

Good business

December 12th, 2004

Every now and then I appreciate how much of my parents’ ways of looking at the world I carry around. Today I went into a local hardware store looking for something, and the place was a mess. The staff wasn’t surly, just indifferent. There wasn’t much rhyme or reason to the store’s layout, but worse, the shelves hadn’t been straightened in what looked like weeks. In the back there were boxes overturned with merchandise spilling out, so that me and the older woman who were looking through kitchenwares had to step over and around plastic tubes that rolled everywhere (a lawsuit waiting to happen). This in a store that, like most little stores in New York, was nothing more than a long narrow room with high shelves, hard enough to navigate when it’s tidy.

Two guys up front were sort of helping customers, but not really. They were teenagers, too young to be running a store by themselves.

I couldn’t help thinking what I would do if it were my store, especially if I were a small business with places like Lowe’s and Home Depot breathing down my neck. I’d whip the staff into shape and get them to clean, organize, and dust the merchandise. I’d have someone working there who spoke Hebrew, and maybe Spanish too. I’d have a manager type there to keep an eye on the staff, especially on a busy weekend. In short, I’d run it like my parents ran their business.

My parents owned a small chain of oil and lube shops, and did all right for themselves. The shops they took over usually had filthy lobbies and filthier garages, no place for customers to sit down or use the restroom, and sullen or criminal-looking mechanics. My mom put her decorating skills to work making a comfortable waiting area with chairs, magazines, a coffee machine, a clean restroom, and pictures on the walls. My dad and brother made sure there was always a manager around. All the guys were required to be clean cut. Every service and its price was clearly listed on the invoice that the customer saw, instead of scribbled on a receipt. The garages were kept clean, and customers could watch their cars being worked on and ask questions.

The customers loved it, and women especially. They would drive miles, past cheaper and bigger shops, to get their oil changed there. My brother and my dad took customer service seriously, and were fair and honest to a fault. And I absorbed that ethic. That is how a business should be run. They didn’t grovel before customers; I saw my dad throw more than one jerk out when they started cursing and insulting the staff, or trying to get something for free. But until a customer crossed that line, they were always treated with courtesy.

The little hardware store on my block may be run by someone who just doesn’t care about things like this. For now, it has no real competition. Maybe the owner can afford to run it sloppily, because it’s still a long way to go to the nearest Lowe’s. The sad thing is, that won’t always be true. And a place that could have helped hold a local community together will be just another casualty, another empty storefront taking up space.

“If this election had been decided on moral values, Democrats would have won.”

December 8th, 2004

I was going to send out an email today talking about such gripping topics as the weather (rainy!) and my mood (cranky!) but you know, there’s always time for that.

Instead, let me share something you won’t be hearing from our president: a coherent, inspirational speech that gives you some hope for a better future. This is a speech Howard Dean gave to Democratic party leaders today (courtesy of http://www.dailykos.com). Especially of interest is his encounter with an evangelical Christian at the end. I’ve edited this for space; the full text of the speech is at Democracy for America’s website.

I’ll soon be back to my regular griping, never fear.

Four years ago, the President won 49 percent of the vote. The Republican Party treated it like it was a mandate, and we let them get away with it.

Fifty one percent is not a mandate either. And this time we’re not going to let them get away with it.

Here in Washington, it seems that after every losing election, there’s a consensus reached among decision-makers in the Democratic Party that the way to win is to be more like Republicans. I suppose you could call that a philosophy: if you didn’t beat ‘em, join them.

I’m not one for making predictions — but if we accept that philosophy this time around, another Democrat will be standing here in four years giving this same speech. We cannot win by being “Republican-lite.” We’ve tried it; it doesn’t work. The question is not whether we move left or right. It’s not about our direction. What we need to start focusing on is the destination.

People in places that we’ve too long ignored are hungry for an alternative; they’re hungry for new ideas and new candidates, and they’re willing to elect Democrats. There are no red states or blue states, just American states. People will vote for Democratic candidates in Texas, and Alabama, and Utah if we knock on their door, introduce ourselves, and tell them what we believe.

(Our) destination is a better, stronger, smarter, safer, healthier America. An America where we don’t turn our back on our own people.That’s the America we can only build with conviction. When some people say we should change direction, in essence they are arguing that our basic or guiding principles can be altered or modified.They can’t.

On issue after issue, we are where the majority of the American people are.What I want to know is at what point did it become a radical notion to stand up for what we believe? Over fifty years ago, Harry Truman said, “We are not going to get anywhere by trimming or appeasing. And we don’t need to try it.” Yet here we are still making the same mistakes.

Let me tell you something: there’s only one thing Republican power brokers want more than for us to lurch to the left — and that’s for us to lurch to the right. What they fear most is that we may really begin fighting for what we believe — the fiscally responsible, socially progressive values for which Democrats have always stood and fought.

I’ll give this to Republicans. They know the America they want. They want a government so small that, in the words of one prominent Republican, it can be drowned in a bathtub. They want a government that runs big deficits, but is small enough to fit into your bedroom. They want a government that is of, by, and for their special interest friends.They want a government that preaches compassion but practices division. They want wealth rewarded over work. And they are willing to use any means to get there.

In going from record surpluses to record deficits, the Republican Party has relinquished the mantle of fiscal responsibility. And now they’re talking about borrowing another $2 trillion to take benefits away from our Senior Citizens.

In going from record job creation to record job loss, they have abandoned the mantle of economic responsibility.

In cutting health care, education, and community policing programs… and in failing to invest in America’s inner cities, or distressed rural communities… they certainly have no desire to even claim the mantle of social responsibility.

In their refusal to embrace real electoral reform or conduct the business in government in the light of day, they are hardly the model of civic responsibility. In their willingness to change the rules so that their indicted leaders can stay in power, they have even given up any claim on personal responsibility.

And in starting an international conflict based on misleading information, I believe they have abdicated America’s moral responsibility, as well.

There is a Party of fiscal responsibility… economic responsibility…. social responsibility… civic responsibility… personal responsibility… and moral responsibility. It’s the Democratic Party.

We need to be able to say strongly, firmly, and proudly what we believe. Because we are what we believe.

And we believe every person in America should have access to affordable health care. It is wrong that we remain the only industrialized nation in the world that does not assure health care for all of its citizens.

We believe the path to a better future goes directly through our public schools. I have nothing against private schools, parochial schools and home schooling. Parents with the means and inclination should choose whatever they believe is best for their children. But those choices must never come at the expense of what has been — and must always be — the great equalizer in our society — public education.

We believe that if you put in a lifetime of work, you have earned a retirement of dignity — not one that is put at risk by your government or unethical business practices.

The first time our nation balanced its budget, it was Andrew Jackson, father of the Democratic Party, who did it. The last time our nation balanced its budget, it was Bill Clinton who did it. I did it every year as Governor. Democrats believe in fiscal responsibility and we’re the only ones who have delivered it.

We believe that every single American has a voice and that it should be heard in the halls of power everyday. And it most certainly must be heard on Election Day. Democracies around the world look to us as a model. How can we be worthy of their aspirations when we haven’t done enough to guarantee accurate elections for our own citizens?

We believe in a strong and secure America… And we believe we will be stronger by having a moral foreign policy.

We need to embrace real political reform — because only real reform will pry government from the grasp of the special interests who have made a mockery of reform and progress for far too long.

The pundits have said that this election was decided on the issue of moral values. I don’t believe that. It is a moral value to provide health care. It is a moral value to educate our young people. The sense of community that comes from full participation in our Democracy is a moral value. Honesty is a moral value. If this election had been decided on moral values, Democrats would have won.

A little while back, at a fundraiser, a woman came up to me. She identified herself as an evangelical Christian from Texas. I asked her what you are all wondering — why was she supporting me. She said there were two reasons. The first was that she had a child who had polycystic kidney disease, and that that illness made it impossible for their family to get health care.

The second thing she said was, “The other reason we’re with you is because evangelical Christians are people of deep conviction, and you’re a person of deep conviction. I may not agree with you on everything, but what we want more than anything else from our government is that when something happens to our family or something happens to our country — it’s that the people in office have deep conviction.”

We are what we believe. And the American people know it.

And I believe that over the next two… four… ten years…

Election by election…

State by state…

Precinct by precinct…

Door by door…

Vote by vote…

We’re going to lift our Party up…

And we’re going to take this country back for the people who built it.